Thursday, July 17, 2014

THROWBACK THURSDAY: Harry Potter and the Love Story of Ron Weasley and Hermione Granger

[NOTE: This last weekend on TV there was a Potterhead weekend thing so all the movies were on ABCFamily. Because of the Harry Potter marathon, I thought it would be a ton of fun to share this old post from my former blog "The Life of a Hopeless Romantic" as a Throwback Thursday kind of thing.]

Originally posted on 3/25/12.

I watched, for the first time, Harry Potter and the Deathly Hallows Part Two, a few weeks ago. This, in turn, caused me to spiral out of control and have a Harry Potter movie marathon. You know me, I have an obsessive personality... at least when it comes to fiction.

Just a couple of my thoughts about Deathly Hallows Part Two [SPOILER ALERT FOR THOSE WHO HAVE NOT SEEN THE MOVIE OR READ THE BOOK]:

  1. I confess to crying when Professor Snape died. And even more so when Harry saw Snape's memories in the penseive. We finally learn that Snape actually came to care for Harry even when treating him horribly. Even more, he protected Harry all through out Harry's life. And the only one who knew was Dumbledore!
  2. I absolutely loved that Neville (the boy who turned into a hottie) Longbottom was the one to kill Nagini (the snake). Harry killed Voldemort but Neville is the one to kill the snake with the Sword of Gryfindor. Go Neville!
  3. And just because I can't resist...



Moving on!

My discussion today will come directly from the movies as I don't really remember the exact details from the book. (Been awhile since I've read them.)


Alright, here we go.

After watching all eight movies pretty much in the span of five days, I came to realize something very interesting. Poor Harry has a tough life but he's surrounded by fantastic friends who love him and he loves them. Speaking of Ron and Hermione... their relationship is full of sparks from the beginning.

And that, my friends, is my focus. Ron and Hermione. (Come on, did you really think that this was going to be about Harry Potter. The boy already has a big head from being "the Chosen One". Besides, I'm the Hopeless Romantic. I focus on the gooey love stuff.)

Freshly Mowed Grass, New Parchment, and Spearmint... Toothpaste. 

"It's the most powerful love potion in the world. It's takes the scent of that which the user finds attractive. For example, I smell freshly mowed grass, new parchment and spearmint... toothpaste." (Hermione in The Half-Blood Prince) 

This is the moment, I think, that Hermione finally acknowledges that she has deeper feelings for Ron than just friendship. As a girl, she is predisposed to being more aware of her emotions. However, before now, she was young and unfamiliar with the world of love and relationship. (I know that there are other instances where we, the audience, can see that Ron and Hermione are mad about each other. I will address them at a later point.)

I have heard The Half-Blood Prince (movie #6) referred to as The Young and the Restless, the teenage years. I laugh at this comment because isn't that how teenagers are... dramatic and caught up in relationships and feelings of love? Just because Harry, Ron, and Hermione have had their fair share of dangerous adventures doesn't mean they're not immune to being teenagers with hormones.

We see that Harry and Hermione grow closer, but just as friends- despite Professor Dumbledore's query to Harry about his relationship with "Miss Granger", due to their unrequited love for other people. Hermione likes Ron who is now in a snogging relationship with Lavender. Harry suddenly realizes the attractiveness of Ron's sister, Ginny. (Pretty brave of Harry to go after his best friend's younger sister. But after all, Harry is the Chosen One...)

Hermione doesn't seem in a hurry to embrace or act upon her new-found feelings for one of her best friends. Maybe she's not entirely aware of her feelings? Or she just doesn't know what to do? She seems pretty content on remaining friends for the time being... until Lavender enters the picture. (Snogging ho!) It's a pretty common formula: person of interest + new romantic interest = realization of hidden feelings/jealousy.

And who does Hermione turn to in her time of broken hearted-ness? None other than the Chosen One himself, Harry Potter. I think this is when Harry and Hermione's relationship goes into something deeper than just "best friends". I don't know of a word that describes friends who are past just friends but in a non-romantic way. That's how I see Harry and Hermione's friendship though. It's more than just friends... in a non-romantic way. Hermione confesses to Harry that she feels something for Ron and confesses that she now understands how Harry feels.

As Charlie Brown says, "Nothing takes the taste out of Peanut Butter quite like unrequited love." I'm not sure if they have peanut butter in the wizarding world but unrequited love can put quite a strain on a friendship. Harry and Hermione grow together and Ron snogs with Lavender.

And then Ron gets poisoned... Apparently the best way to break up with a now unwanted girlfriend is to mumble another girl's name in the midst of a drug induced slumber. That's the end of Lavender. And Hermione got to stay at Ron's side. As Ginny tells to Harry, "It's about time." (Ron has no memory of this later which throws poor Hermione off. Also, I love how she tells him that he broke up with Lavender- so funny.) However, that is not the end of the line for our star crossed would-be-lovers.

But it certainly is a huge step forward.

Good Skin

I think there has always been a current of awareness flowing between Ron and Hermione. In the beginning, they were just too young to know what it was. As they got older, they pushed each other into the Friend Zone because they didn't know what else to do. Then Hermione finally realized that she had deeper feelings for Ron than just friends. (Hopefully you've read the previous section.)

So now Harry knows and Hermione knows. The only one missing it is Ron. Which is to be expected. He is a boy after all. They tend to not notice important things like when one of their best friends (Hermione obviously) is in love with them. However, Ron does have feelings for Hermione as well.

Evidence is found when he has a conversation with Harry about good skin. Apparently Ginny has good skin, according to Harry. Ron doesn't get the good skin thing... until he applies it to someone other than his baby sister. "Hermione has good skin."

It turns out that Ron is the jealous type. And jealous of a girl he doesn't even claim for his own. There's the Yule Ball incident in Goblet of Fire. Hermione shows up looking beautiful with a very attractive date and Ron is not happy. But I betcha, he doesn't know why he's unhappy. His reason to Hermione is that she's "fraternizing with the enemy." Well, Ron if you want her, you gotta ask her yourself. Hermione pretty much tells him the same thing. I think she should have slugged him in the face... boys can be pretty dense.

In Deathly Hallows part one, we see a darker side to Ron's jealousy. As I said before, Harry and Hermione have a deeper relationship than just best friends in a very platonic way. I think outsiders often misconstrued the relationship for something romantic. Ron did. It didn't help that the Horcrux around his neck affected him like the Ring did Gollum, Bilbo Baggins, and Frodo Baggins.

Ron confronts his friends and ends up leaving despite Hermione's desperate pleas that he stays. If he weren't out of his head, I think he would have realized then that Hermione felt something infinitely more romantic for him then for Harry. (Or maybe that's me wishing.)

After Ron leaves, Hermione is miserable. Something that Harry understands. And when Ron comes back, Hermione is just mad. Understandably so. Stupid boy broke her heart and made her worry. Grr! Don't worry, she forgives him eventually. Ron knows that he screwed up and starts grovelling to get back to her good side.

So now Hermione knows that she loves Ron. And Ron knows that he loves Hermione. And Harry knows that Hermione loves Ron and Ron loves Hermione but neither have told each other. So he's stuck between them... as per usual. But at this point, they have other things to worry about. Such as getting all the Horcruxes and defeating Voldemort.

That doesn't necessarily make them, Ron and Hermione, forget about the sparks between them. Unlike most teenagers, they aren't able to spend time working on their romantic relationship. They're too busy trying to stay alive and kill an evil wizard. Besides, Ron and Hermione's relationship has always been different. They're the kind of couple that isn't all cute and flirty. Rather they are cute and bickery. Always on each others case. It's just reeks of UST (Unresolved Sexual Tension). Their whole relationship drips with bickery UST. I personally love relationships like that: Mr. Darcy and Elizabeth Bennett from Pride and Prejudice; Booth and Brennan from BONES; Castle and Beckett from CASTLE; Veronica Mars and Logan Echolls from Veronica Mars; Han Solo and Princess Leia from Star Wars. (To name a few.)

In the conclusion of the movies, Deathly Hallows part two, comes the culmination of Ron and Hermione's relationship. They finally acknowledge that they love each other in the form of a kiss after a particularly harrowing near death experience in the Chamber of Secrets. FINALLY! We don't really get to see what their new relationship status ends up being like because it's the last movie, the end of an era. I like to think that it's pretty much the same as before. Bickery with more snogging and hand-holding. I don't think they change just because they're finally together. But that's just me. :)

Always the Tone of Surprise

Some signs that Ron and Hermione are destined to be together...

  • Ron's instant dislike of Hermione (Sorcerer's Stone)
  • Discomfort touching each other- Hugging in Chamber of Secrets, Hand touching in Prisoner of Azkaban
  • Hermione turning to Ron and not Harry when Buckbeak dies (Prisoner of Azkaban)
  • Fight at Yule Ball about "fraternizing with the enemy" (Goblet of Fire)
  • Hermione confesses to Harry about Ron/Expresses Jealousy (Half-Blood Prince)
  • Ron likes Hermione's skin (Half-Blood Prince)
  • Ron touching Hermione's face to "wipe something off" (Half-Blood Prince & Deathly Hallows part 1)
  • Hermione's desperation to keep Ron with them when searching for Horcruxes (Deathly Hallows part 1)
  • Ron's jealousy about Harry and Hermione's relationship (Deathly Hallows part 1)
  • Constant "Brilliants" exchanged between the two (Deathly Hallows parts 1 & 2)
  • Hermione's constant worry over Ron's well-being- especially at the beginning of Deathly Hallows part 1 when Ron pretends to be Harry. (Deathly Hallows part 1 & 2)
  • "Always the tone of surprise." Flirting between them. (Deathly Hallows part 1)
  • Constant bickering (Sorcerer's Stone through Deathly Hallows part 2)
  • Kiss exchanged after a near death experience in the Chamber of Secrets (Deathly Hallows part 2)
These are just a few examples. I know I missed a lot of Ron and Hermoine moments but I think you get the gist. [Upon reading this again, I have thought of other moments such as when Hermoine is being tortured by Bellatrix Lestrange and Ron is literally FREAKING out. Whoa dude. Breathe.]

Harry and Ginny

I watched a portion of Half-Blood Prince with my younger brother who has not read any of the books and he made a comment that made me think. He told me that he didn't like the romantic relationship between Harry and Ginny because it came out of nowhere. One minute they're sort of friends- more like Ginny is Harry's best friend's little sister- and the next they're snogging in the Room of Requirement.

In the books, it's not quite so sudden. I feel like they didn't do an effective job in the movies making it seem natural for Harry and Ginny to be romantical. I understand that when making movies, you have to change things and cut things out but seriously!

Also, their relationship is SO awkward. Shoe-tying. Weird, awkward hugs. Random chasing after Death Eaters together. Zipping up dresses. It's just so awkward. Maybe the actors didn't have good chemistry and it showed on screen. Whatever it is, the relationship between Harry and Ginny isn't as near as tantalizing as it is with Ron and Hermione.

But maybe that's just my own opinion.

Sorry about the length of the post but I had a lot to say on the subject of Ron and Hermione.

[And that is the Throwback Thursday post from The Life of a Hopeless Romantic. I kind of enjoyed going back and reading some of my old stuff. Who knows: maybe I'll make Throwback Thursdays a weekly thing. I hope you enjoyed reading about my analysis/commentary on Ron and Hermoine from way back when.]

Smile Always,

Chuck


Monday, July 7, 2014

6 Foot 2

Do you ever run across a song that just sums up what you are feeling? I was driving to my parent's house this weekend when one such song came on. I was smitten instantly. So of course I made my mom listen to it. And then any friend I ran across over the long weekend. And even though they maybe didn't appreciate it as much I did, I'm thankful they let me show them the song.

I've been thinking a lot about love lately. I am single and in my mid twenties and I can honestly say that I've never really been in love before. I've been infatuated. I've been in deep like with someone before. I've even fancied myself in love but the truth is simply that I've never been in love. The kind of love that last forever. The kind of love that makes people want to change for the better. And the kind of love that leads a man and a woman to marry, not only for this life but for the rest of eternity.

Eternity is a long time. You don't want to hitch your star with just anyone, right?

I also don't believe in love at first sight. Which is strange considering what a hopeless romantic I claim to be. I believe you can be attracted to someone when you first see them. But how can you be in love with them when you don't even know them. I'm talking romantic kind of love by the way.

But for the romantic love, I just don't think it happens at first sight. Love doesn't just happen it has to grow. It's life faith. It's a little seed that when planted (at first sight) then nourished (through dating, courtship, spending time together) it will grow into something that can last forever. Once it's a plant, it needs to continue to be nourished. A piece of advice my parents have given me about marriage is to continue to date your spouse after your married. Just because you're married doesn't mean that you can't still get to know each your spouse and do things together. Here I am talking as if I know anything about marriage. This is all my own opinions formed through observation and other people's counsel.

Now back to songs that fit my life.


Can he have blue eyes just like the sky?
Blonde hair, wavy and light?
And 6 foot 2 is my favorite height. 
...I'm not particular... 

I'm willing to wait this one out. 

Whatever you want is whatever I want. 

I don't care what he looks like.

I love this song because I totally relate to it. I'm always saying that I'm not particular but then I also have an idea in my head of what is my "type". My type leads me to rule out any guy that doesn't fit the idea I have in my head. I used to be REALLY bad about this before I grew up on my mission. I feel that I'm better at giving people a chance.

And to be quite honest: 6 foot 2 is my favorite height... because that's how tall Tom Hiddleston is. Hahaha.



But seriously, I'm learning how to not be so particular and give people a chance. And I'm learning to not give up on love. The Lord knows what's best for me and He is taking His "sweet, sweet time." When the time is right, it'll happen.

In the meantime, I've got Tom Hiddleston to ogle and good music to enjoy.

You can't hurry love, right? So Mr. 6 foot 2 (even if you're not really 6 foot 2) I'm ready when you are.

Smile Always,

Chuck

Sunday, June 15, 2014

Dear Dad

Dear Dad,

Today, we celebrate you. Thank you for always taking care of me. Thank you for fixing my car, for believing in me, and for always reading my writing. It's nice to know that you have my best interest at heart.  A girl couldn't ask for much more than that. I may not always agree with you but I will always love you. So... thanks. For everything

Love,

Your little girl


[I couldn't get the video to upload the way I wanted to so I'm just sticking the link here. Sorry for the lame-ness.]

Fathers


I felt this video was appropriate for this day. What a wonderful blessing it is to have both an earthly father and a Heavenly Father.

Smile Always,

Chuck

Tuesday, June 3, 2014

Chuck's Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day

Have you ever had one of those mornings where you just wake up ticked off? You are just angry, upset, and mad? Today was one of those days.

I don't know what caused me to be so upset. My alarm rang and I got out of bed with no problem. It was, to the rest of the world, a regular morning. But I was just MAD. Everything just seemed to be irritating me.

My hair was a greasy mop on my head- up into a ponytail with the bangs pinned back it went.
The dishes were stacked to the max in the drain rack. (I should be glad it wasn't dirty dishes in the sink.) I had a bad raspberry in my carton. A roommate left a mess in the living room. I had to make lunch for the day. Then the bathroom counter was covered in a puddle of water (from the previously mentioned roommate). I had to grab my precious quarters (which help me to keep my clothes clean) to fill a tire with air. And in my haste to do so, I left my toaster waffle sitting in the toaster. Oh well, it was probably burnt anyway.

It turns out, the local Chevron near my apartment has a free air hose. Hurray, no need to use my laundry quarters filling up a tire. Downside, it had no tire gauge so I had no idea how much air was going it. A lot. But don't worry... by the time I made my trek on the freeway and got to work... the low tire pressure light was on. The air didn't even stay inside the stupid tire!!!

Yep, I was just mad. I called my mom because she has all the answers to life (seriously don't know what I would do without here). Upside, I got to talk to my nephew for a moment. He makes everything right.

At work, I made a little mistake that I normally don't make and WHAM!! The boss not only tells me to do what I have been doing except for this one STINKIN' time but then he emails everyone to remind them to do it to! UGH!!! I was mad. What a crap day!

Then lunch time rolled around and I had to go to the local tire place to get my now completely flat tire fixed. Ten minutes into the process, the mechanic comes up to me and tells me that my front tires are shot. They should be replaced soon. Very soon. He's kind enough to hand me a tire quote and explain everything to me. Okay, it was my fear. However, the quote is reasonable. And they didn't charge me for fixing my tire. Saweet!

I get back to work and now I feel like every question I ask to clarify something is treated as the world stupidest question. The feeling of inadequacy burns through my veins. Why am I even working here? Am I really even qualified to answer this stupid phone?

Time ticks by. Finally it's 5. I clock out and get the heck out of Dodge. I check my tire. Looking good and fixed. I make it back home in record time... just in time to pay my rent. Huzzah. (NOT). I check the mail. A letter from an old companion who is still serving in California. I'll have to remember to write her back. And in another mysterious letter I find... a check! It's my deposit back from my last apartment. Yippee!! Money to cover the cost of tires. All is right in the world.

Okay, so maybe today wasn't the worst day I could ever have. There are plenty of people who have crappier situations than I have. I'm doing quite well actually. Sometimes, you get so focused on your own life and on your own self that you just get sucked into this pit of anger and irritation. It can be hard to drag yourself out.

To show you that I am, in fact, capable of dragging myself out of this terrible dark pit, I thought I'd list the blessings I recognized (or the "Tender mercies of the Lord" if you will):

1. I got to talk to my mom on the phone.
2. I got to talk to my sweet and adorable nephew on the phone.
3. My sweet and adorable nephew wanted to talk to me on the phone.
4. I was reminded to always strive to do a better job.
5. The guy at the tire place was very helpful and kind to me.
6. They didn't charge me for fixing my tire.
7. I ate a decent lunch.
8. I had plenty of water.
9. I finally paid my rent and now I don't have to worry about it until next month.
10. I got a check in the mail. No complaints there.
11. My parents are awesome and always willing to help me out whenever I need it.
12. There are moments when I'm talking on the phone when I realize how mature and professional I sound.
13. My phone skills have improved immensely with this job.
14. I was reminded of how much potential I actually have.
15. Heavenly Father answers prayers. Even when I don't feel like I deserve it.
16. The air conditioner works in my car.
17. My roommates, despite the fact that they don't really clean up after themselves a whole lot, are really nice.
18. I got a letter from an old companion.
19. I get paid this week.
20. Tomorrow is another day and thus it is as full of potential as I am.

Thank goodness for tomorrows to help when we have bad todays.

Just take a step back and recognize the good things that have come from a bad day. It helps way more than I thought it could.

Smile Always,

Chuck